Ok need immediate advice on how to act when my husband gets home in 20 minutes?

ok. He has been acting strange for awhile....cussing me out, ignoring me, blaming me for things out of my control. ...accusing me of things that are untrue. Last time he came hom from the navy I saw emails between him and some woman on his computer that were horrible. He said they were just friends. He acts distant towards me yet says he loves me. I feel like he has been pushing me away. He has said terrible things to me like calling me names and hanging up on me a lot. I don't know how to act....I don't want to fight ...I just want to talk....what should I do?Ok need immediate advice on how to act when my husband gets home in 20 minutes?
honestly sweetheart if he is being this big of a jerk to you i dont know if there is much you can do... i think the best thing you can do is tell him straight up that if he doesnt knock it off your leaving and its over. you dont deserve this kind of treatment and you do deserve better. he has no right treating you as such. i seriously wanted to cry reading this. i hope he does change for you because if he really loves you he wouldnt act like this towards you!





im really sorry for you and i hope things work out. i'll seriously pray for you but if he doesnt change or is like forget you and all that you really should leave him. you deserve better.Ok need immediate advice on how to act when my husband gets home in 20 minutes?
Sounds like a classic case of something going on; confront him and ask him the questions that you want the answers too; guilt usually makes them act the way he is acting; then he can say it is all your fault and split.Takes all the burden off him if he convinces himself it was all your fault.
Be specific. Don't generalize. No name calling or the 'discussion' is over. Tell me you care about him and your relationship. Be honest. You are scared and you just want to know what is going on. Show proof of the emails. Ask to seek counseling. You needs objective help.
hey gurl he is cheating on you for sure and he is gutless to cos he is trying to get rid of you by driving you away by saying bad things to you , you deserve beter and Im sorry for the hurt you are going to feel. been there
HE'S CHEATING, stop denying it, you already know it in your heart, get the evidence you need or a confession from him, then pray about what to do next
Please be careful if you confront him with any evidence, as it could get really ugly...men hate to be found out and moreso, to be cornered and made to look wrong.


I know all too well.
He's trying to get you to dump him... so he can get together with someone else guilt free...
You said he's in the Navy - is there a chance your husband could be dealing with post-traumatic stress or some other form of depression or anxiety from his military duties? These types of things often cause people to push away the people they love the most... and they need a doctor to diagnose it and treat it so things can get back to normal.





You don't say what the ';horrible'; emails are, but my hunch is that your husband may be doing inappropriate things with another woman. His anger towards you may be a product of guilt that he feels, as well as a fear of being caught red-handed. It's been said, many, many times that a man can have sex and it be ';just sex'; - so your husband could be having a fling but still be telling the truth when he says he loves you. Or he could be telling the truth - that this woman is not a lover of the physical kind, but what's going on could be an ';emotional affair'; - where a lot of energy is put into the interaction, but there's no sex. Was she by chance also in the military?





Hanging up a lot makes it sound like he is hiding something. Why don't you just try to spend some time together, like watching a movie together or something, and tell him that he seems very stressed and you'd like to know if there is anything you can do to help ease his mind.





Don't use the phrase ';we need to talk';.... and sit next to him, not across from him so it will seem non-confrontational.
I would say your husband has been searching the ball field for a new player. Its not that he doesn't love you, but he is probably under a lot of stress and he thinks that having something new and different might change things. If you don't already have plans for him, then as soon as he gets home take him out to dinner, go for a nice drive, and seduce him like the first you ever met! Remind him of how good things ar with you, always try to maintain a positive influence over the situation. If things go well, then sit down and have a talk with him tomorrow about how you feel insecure about this friendship and if she is just a friend maybe you could get to know her too. If he is dead set against the idea, then that's a good sign there is more going on that he is ready to admit to. It might be time to play hard ball at that point. You could always hand him a box of his stuff, and ask him to store it at her house since she is such a good friend. Being married to a navy guy is hard, and it takes a lot of tough love when your only together a few weeks out of the year when he is deployed. that is part of why the military has such a huge rate of divorce. Just try to be the wife he married, young vibrant and energetic I am sure. Good luck, I hope things work out.
Greet him at the door with no cloths on and win him back.