Monday, August 23, 2010

My husband of 2 years sometimes gets real moody and won't let me in on what is wrong with him, advice?

If it gets to a point where it is affecting your marriage then you need to let him know that it is a problem. If you can deal with him holding things inside b/c he eventually deals with it, then let it alone. Just be sure that he knows you are there when he needs you or when he is ready.My husband of 2 years sometimes gets real moody and won't let me in on what is wrong with him, advice?
There are more questions than answers. It could be medical. I suffered from bi polar for years and never knew why my moods would change. If you dont know why, how can you tell someone elseMy husband of 2 years sometimes gets real moody and won't let me in on what is wrong with him, advice?
I've answered this question a lot.





Sometimes guys get depressed about their life a little. They had expectations for what their life should be like, and regardless of how it really is they feel like a disapointment. Sometimes it big sometimes it isn't. When they feel down they feel a little insecure and they either sulk or lash out, they might even blame you for something that was completely out of your control. Anyway, most guys get depressed about things sometimes and since they might feel like a disapointment they want to stay strong in your eyes, so they don't talk to you about it. The absolute best thing you can do is let him know that you are always there for him no matter what it is. No matter what he has done or what he feels like, you will be by his side no matter what. I know he trusts you, but he doesn't want you to judge him. It sounds stupid, but it is most likely the case. Just say 'babe, I've noticed a mood change in you and I just want you to know that I am always here for you no matter what, you can trust me with anything. I love you and will always love you'


Sometimes a guy just feels like he is alone and no one will understand what goes on inside.


Remember, unconditional love.
Whats going on is that he is having an affair with Shelia from down the block. I was talking with Tim this morning and he said he was at the bar last night and saw Beth and she was saying that Ron saw them together.
YOU SHOULD TELL HIM OPEN THE DOOR YOU COULD BE THE ANSWER!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?





During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, ';How do I know if I married the right person?'; I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, ';It depends. Is that your husband?'; In all seriousness, she answered ';How do you know?';





Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.





Here's the answer.


EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.





Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called ';falling'; in love...





Because it's happening TO YOU.





People in love sometimes say, ';I was swept off my feet.'; Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.





Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.





The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.





At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, ';Did I marry the right person?'; And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.





Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.





And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):





THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.





SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't ';find'; LASTING love. You have to ';make'; it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression ';the labor of love.'; Because it takes time, effort, and energy, And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.





Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.





Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can ';make'; love.





Love in marriage is indeed a ';decision';... Not just a feeling.
It's not just your husband, it's everyones husbands! Men are like that! I don't know of a man that isn't! Is it fair to make us sit around and worry about if it's something we've done? No! But I think the best thing a woman can do is be nice to them and wait till they come to you! I've learned the more you nag the more distant they become! So hang in there, and in the mean time worry about your own needs, he apparently needs to figure out his!
What ever is bothering him is for him only. Men do not express themselves the way women do. It is viewed as a sign of weakness to them. Leave him alone. When he is ready to talk he will. Do not make it an issue.
We men are very secrective about our weaknesses. Could be the boss man at work gave him some problems, but to admit would be giving you the power to destroy him.
Hey:


TALK TO HIM ABT COUNSELLING, MAYBE HE IS:


(1) SEEING SOMEONE ELSE


(2) STRESSED OUT


(3) HAVE HARD TIME AT WORK


(4) MEDICALLY SICK


(5) DEPRESSED


(5) HIDING A SECRET


(6) HAVE SOME OTHER BURDEN


GOOD LUCK


LOVE SANAM
Sounds like he's a Gemini.
Tell him of your concern and assure him again that you are there for him to support him in whatever way possible, and that he can tell you anything.
just let him go and take care of things till he feels better and he will come to you...


sometimes ppl just need to be left alone for a while to think
Honey Do NOT feel bad on that issue b/c I believe majority of the women in the world go through that. Some men are like that and my husband is one of them and so is my father. The only thing I can say is to ask him and if he doesn't give you an answer just try to stay out of his way. When he gets home, don't say nothing. Just do your usual routine at home and go on about your business and eventually he will come around. Sometimes men just need a moment and when they cool off, they will tell you what is wrong. That is how my husband operates. It is nerve reckin but that is the only way he communicates. And to keep my blood pressure from going up, I just don't say NOTHING to him. (SMILE!) Good Luck.
give him space, but maybe when he isn't in a moody mood you could talk to him about it... men like to go into their ';cave'; to think... they don't always like to talk to the woman they love about things, because sometimes it makes him feel like a failure/unworthy/weak... this is his way of dealing with it. He probably doesn't want to worry you, or add to the things you already have to deal with... Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is a great book... it explains alot about this... its fairly inexpensive... good luck my fellow loving woman!!!
For many men; It is food, sex, or his football team lost.
yeah they get like that....mine does sometimes but then if i give him time to get over it..hes fine and will generally open up to me.....husbands are strange creatures and have weird emotions and i fully believe they get pms too lol...just be careful with him when hes like that and do something nice for me and then he will open up to you i promise!
dont worry about it, and just let him live his life

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