My husband and I were in a verbal and domestic abuse situation last night need advice?

We have four kids, he has two and I have two. He verbally abused one of my sons and I, threw me into the refrigerator, causing a slight concussion and bruised knee cap...the police told him to vacate the premises, and not come back, but sure enough, he did. I went to ER this morning after filing EPO against him. The house we live in is in his parents name. He has threatened to cut off elec and water. Should I bring assault charges against him? I dont know alot of people in the town I live in and my parents live too far. Any advice?My husband and I were in a verbal and domestic abuse situation last night need advice?
I am so sorry you and the children have been put in this situation. This isn't the first time he's been abusive is it? The abuse has escalated to a dangerous level. The next time he could kill you. I'm not kidding. I worked with victims of domestic violence (abuse) for 11 years. Your husband is abusing you verbally, emotionally, psychologically, physically, abusing the children, threatening to shut off utilities. These are all ways to control you and keep you dependent on him. If he won't stay away then you need to take the children and leave. Go to a shelter for victims of abuse. If a person on the street did that to you they'd be arrested for assault. Just because he's your husband is no reason for him to not be treated the same way. Yes, bring assault charges against him. It's only going to get worse.





The National Domestic Violence Hotline number is: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They can give you the number of a program close to you. If you're wondering if you're being abused, check out their ';How is you relationship?'; quiz: http://www.ndvh.org/educate/abuse_quiz.h鈥?/a>





Honey, you don't have to live like this. You can get out. It won't be easy. Your local program will have advocates to go to the police, court and social services agencies with you. They're trained to help victims of abuse and their children. They might even be able to help you and your children to get home to your parents, if that's what you want. I pray you'll call the national hotline!!!! God bless!





P.S. You can contact me if you want.My husband and I were in a verbal and domestic abuse situation last night need advice?
FOCUS!!!! Find somebody you can trust and let them help be your support. You don't have to do this alone and shouldn't. You have children you are responsible for keeping safe. YOU HAVE TO KEEP THEM SAFE!


Your parents aren't so far they won't come to you when he hurts you again or worse. And he will. Right now you have to be in a safe place. Tell your friends, co-workers you are going on vacation and GO TO YOUR FOLKS!. Take time to gather your thoughts and figure out what you CAN do. He won't be able to say you abandoned him then. If you decide on permanent separation.


Use your head not your heart. FOCUS on keeping your children safe and you will be too! Document everything. Find your local resources for battered women. You've put this out here and people that care about you will want a follow up. I wish you safety and happiness!
LEAVE HIM, There is no need for you to be treated like that. take your kids and go. There should be a domestic shelter there near by. They can help you with finding a job, home, clothes, furniture, etc. don't let your kids go through this they deserve to live a better life then what we had.There is someone out there for you and your kids don't just settle for less. God Bless you and your kids
YES you should bring charges against him! There is never a justification for a man to hit (or throw) a woman. If the police can not keep him away long enough for you to gather your things, leave without them. Find a battered women's shelter (the police should be able to help you) and go there. Contact your parents for help. Deal with the rest from a safe distance. Do not let him talk you into coming back. You and your children deserve better.
file charges...





call the utility companies and let them know whats up.....they will let you choose a ';password'; that only you and they know if utilities are attempted to be tampered with
Judging by your track record you are a sponger who is in relationships for the financial gain. People like you who can't make a marriage work should do the world a favour by hanging yourself.
sweetie you need to do something. call a help hot-line they will tell you what to do. whatever you do don't let hat bastard back in your life. You and your children deserve a better life then that.
Well I thought that most of the peoples advice was pretty good. I would have to agree with them that you need to find help. I just want to say that if you are looking for excuses to stay with him then you have already lost and so have your kids. I saw that little baby in the picture you really need to think about those children. What would happen if he were to go too far and kill you? What about your kids? I know you said that your parents are too far away but I would find out if they would be willing to help you get there or out of that house. Most likely you would not be provided the house if you did get a lawyer involved because it isn't under any of your guys names it's under his parents so I really don't think that will work for you. You just need to get some help and keep you and your children away from him. My sister in law was in the same situation. It started out the way you are experiencing now and he ended up trying to kill her one day he stabbed her in the neck numerous times. We thought we had lost her. Luckily she survived but her kids were there and they witnessed their dad trying to kill their mom. He is now in jail for a long time but those kids have been through hell since. Just really think about your kids. That's all the advice I can give you. Hang in there and take care of business.
Do you have a restraining order? If not get it now. Contact the utilities, and let them know the situation and see what they will do to block him. Don't wait. Take the initiative.
there is no reason in the world good enough for a man to put his hands on a woman out of anger. I hope that your soon to be exhusband gets thrown n jail and abused by other inmates. As far as verbal abuse, people always say things before they think about it, way to often and it can hurt very bad. I hope that your kid is ok. You have to teach children right from wrong and hopefully wont pick up on any of his crap. Really sorry that you have to deal with that kind of mess.
It's illegal for him to tamper with any of the utilities, there are court appointed specialist that will help you, go to your local yellow pages and look under domestic violence and you'll find a list of agencies that help women in your position, but for your children's sake DO NOT PROCRASTINATE, the court system can sometimes be slow and cumbersome, the sooner you get in contact with one of these agencies the sooner, if you need help contact me at Qworx@sprintpcs.com
You have to file charges. My mom and dad were in the same type of relationship that you described. She took it for a long time and eventually he came into our house with a gun that had enough bullets for each of us. When he tried to pull the trigger the gun wouldnt fire. I through him out of the house and called the police, he broke the door down and came back in. It didnt take long for the police to get there but when they did he was gone. We had to hide for days with secret identities and when they found him he had comitted suicide. You need a safe place for you and your children, get out while you can... I not saying he would do something like that but anything is possible. You and your children deserve better than that!
With out a doubt you need to file assault charges ASAP. You need to have a legal track record on him. He is out of control. Verbal is one thing but when you cross the line into the physical world that is when you need to take action. As for the house that is a sticky one. You need a lawyer. Don't you have any friends or relatives who can move in with you while this thing is rocking and rolling?