I need some advice on what to do about my husband?

We have been married for about 3 years and some months and things hasnt changed. He has hit me before, abandoned me and always sweet talkes his way back. He lives with me and drives my car and his cell is under my name on my account.. H e forces me to have sex with him and if I dont he acts like a babyor accuse me of cheating on him. He has cheated and tried over and over again, he even had a woman to call my house and blow him kisses and then say that my uncle set it up, eventually my husband told me the truth and met her on a greyhound bus. Every friday when he gets paid he makes up little reason to arugue then he leaves the house stays gone for some time then comes back and wants to take shower and eat as if my house was a hotel. He doesnt treat me like a wife he treats me like a slave and whore. He has even told me that he wanted a divorce and I told him that was fine but then the next day he wants sex and he thinks that everything is okay when its not.What do I do,please help....I need some advice on what to do about my husband?
Please read what you just wrote and pretend you had a daughter and she was asking you ';Mom I need some advice on what to do about my husband... he has hit me before, abandoned me, forces me to have sex with him, accuses me of cheating, cheated on me...';


I would hope you would be horrified and tell her to leave a child (he is not a man) like that.


Love yourself please. You deserve better than this situation. It is ok to admit that marrying this man was a mistake but it is NOT ok to continue making the mistake.I need some advice on what to do about my husband?
Time to man up!! Get all the support, friends, family you can, pack up his ****, cancel his accounts and tell him he is not welcome back into your life anymore. What you have is not a husband nor a marriage but a manipulator leeching off of you to fulfill his selfish needs. He won't stop hurting you and doing what he does until he is not permitted into your life anymore.
You are really being abused in all forms. Ask yourself why you are letting this happen to you. Figure out what you want from life. Take your strength that you've used to deal with the abuse and rechannel it into getting yourself free. This is not how life is supposed to be; you have to get out of this terrible situation.
See a lawyer. This man is abusing you and you need advice on how to divorce him. You may need help from the police for protection.





I don't usually say you should get divorced but I think this is a situation that will only get worse.





Please get help for yourself and good luck.
Get YOUR BUTT OUT OF THE SITUATION!! Serioulsy, I could not treat my wife like this, He does not care about you, GO FIND A REAL MAN!! I HATE THAT GUYS do this to WOMEN, I love my WIFE!! I would never hurt her, WHY DO YOU PUT UP WITH IT? SORRY for all the capitals but I AM EXPRESSING THIS TO YOU!!! GET OUT IMMEDIATELY DONT BE AFRAID!! STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!!!
D I V O R C E him!





Unless you enjoy being treated like that...well then, stay with his sorry a$$ and continue subjecting YOURSELF to him.





Life is all about choices...make the ones that are good for you - not for somebody else's benefit.
RRUUNN as fast and as far as you can. He is not going to change. My sister has been waiting for 5 years for her married boyfriend to get divorced. Not going to happen. Good luck.
You really need to leave him. Do what ever it takes. You deserve WAY more then this. Be strong, its hard, but its going to be harder to stay with this creep. Leave while you have some dignity left.
You probably feel overpowered because he is so intertwined in your life, finances, etc.





Get a cop. kick him out. file charges.
get the hell out of this relationship what ever it takes separation divorce and move away from him change the telephone and everything else you are not very intelligent
You should make him leave. You can do much better. It might hurt you at 1st but everything will work out. Good luck
this is an unhealthy relationship. have him leave
he hit you? Hire a lawyer and kick him out. nobody has a right to hit another person (and this goes for women who slap men)
Get a lawyer and file for divorce-ask him to move out. Do something get out of that mess!!!
Get rid of him, sounds like a loser
leave him. he should never raise a hand to you!
Please leave him hun,I had a guy who I loved alot years ago,he use to abuse me,I had him back loads of times,I told him it was over,and he nearly killed me,stabbed me 13 times and I am lucky I am still here,my face was damaged,and I was attractive young girl,my body damaged too,my mum was heartbroken.I couldnt smile for years as nerve damaged in my face,its still not right after 35 years.Please don't let him get round you it may be hard but in the future you will be glad you did.Get a nice guy who will love and treat you with respect.Leave the town where you live if you have to,but make sure you let the police know if he threatens you,explain he has hit you before,they understand,get away soon,and don't listen to his sad stories men are like that who abuse women,and most women in the end are either really badly beaten,or even dead,be very careful,and please do something before its too late.Take care and God bless you.
i don't know what to say. it seems like you know the answer to this question, but you want someone else to validate it for you.





LEAVE HIM! gather some money up and move without him and DON'T tell him where you live. let him play his games b/c you have your own agenda. remember, he needs you to survive. he's playing you cause he knows nobody else is going to take his sorry butt in the way you have cause you're married to him. take control of your life don't let him run it for you. don't argue with him cause that seems like how the hitting occurs, but let him know like, 'you know, i've been thinking about what you said about the divorce thing and i think you're right' or something to that affect. but only when you have your new place set up cause you're not going to be able to get him out of this one. let him think everything is cool, like you're paying bills and all, until he gets the eviction notice. if he doesn't pay it, i guess he'll be moving as well. i hope you don't have any kids with him. get advise from a lawyer was to your next step and RUN!! i know you've seen enough lifetime movies to know how this is going to turn out if you keep going on like this. treat it as a life or death situation.
Contact the local abused women shelter and get their help. You will need support through this. Do you own your house? Then change the locks and don't let him in for any reason. If you are renting, pack up all your belongings and move without giving him a forwarding address. The shelter will help you to get an ex parte order against him (frequently called a restraining order), but you will probably have difficulty getting the police to enforce it unless he assaults you violently, and most male police officers don't considering forcing your wife to have sex a rape, although it is. Your local shelter will have people who are used to dealing with men like him and more importantly, women like you, so they will help you to understand why you keep taking him back and teach you how to break that habit.
First of all it sounds like he is doing something he shouldn't be doing and he isn't disappointed with himself because he wants to be with you but he can't five the streets but than he doesn't want to be without you so he tries to so things to make you leave him so that it will be your fault he left and than it won't hurt him as bad he is feeling real guilty right noe and he doesn't know how to tell you what is going because he doesn't want to see your pain.