My husband always told me he wanted me to be a freak in bed and I have to admit I would sort of lay there. So I did up my part of the sex. He always watched porn and asked me what I thought of the men in the pic while we had sex and asked me to think about other men during sex. I used to lie and tell him that I was thinking of someone else when I wasn't. I was never the type to cheat at all or even look another mans way. Now I am feeling like I am starting to like what I see when he asks and I feel that I want to experience another man. I told/ warned him that asking me to really look at and think about other men especially during sex could open something that would be hard to close but he kept asking for years. I fought and fought but now I like it and want it. I have told him exactly how I feel and now its like im wrong for feeling like I want to experience something else.
I told him to be careful about opening that part of me up because I had experienced being with other people before we were married and I didn't want that feeling to open back up. He knows about my past and everything and he still pushed and pushed. We have been together in all for about 10 years. We have been married for 5 yrs. We have been together since Junior year in highschool!!!!
I understand FANTASY but he went over the line when he posted a nude pic online and asked for dudes to contact him if they wanted to do me! And I just happened to see his email. He actually talked to some dudes for me to talk to. But I am wrong for ';thinking'; about wanting to pursue it!!! I don't get it.
Let me add that I still don't want to ruin my marriage but I am getting curious? I am now looking like the bad person when I tried for years not too, Its like chipping away at something, sooner or later it will break. I almost feel like I am at a breaking point.
He is the type that has made some mistakes before but never actually had sex with anyone else. But he is on me like a leech since forever. I have never done anything wrong or given reason to believe that I would regardless of what he has done. He is not abusive or anything like that! Someone suggested to me before that he could be insecure!Husband sending mixed signals about sex, NEED ADVICE! (LONG)?
I would be furious if my husband posted a picture of me online! And the fact that he is asking men to contact him if they want to have sex with you, that's way over the line.
You need to deal with your own emotional issues of wanting sex with other men. Just because you fantasize about other men doesn't mean that you should want to actually be with another man.
If you have sex with someone else it will ruin your relationship, period!Husband sending mixed signals about sex, NEED ADVICE! (LONG)?
Your husband has big issues, and shouldn't be pressuring you into things you aren't comfortable with. Honestly, he sounds like a creep, with no respect for marriage or you.
You should learn to stand up for yourself and tell him no about oggling other men and thinking of sleeping with them, get a backbone woman!
this is all bad bad bad. you need to stop thinking about other penises, and whenever your husband brings it up, tell him it's not right and you want to keep things between the two of you.
try tying him up or something like that.
Give some bulls a ride. Let them use you in every way while your husband is watching. Catch a sexually transmitted disease.
dont go there lol
He has issues right now
This is why they say, Be careful of what you ask for you just may get it.
he has no respect for your body whatsoever
i would need to see the pic that he posted....
It sounds like you're hesitant to talk to your husband about whether this whole thing is meant to be fantasy or whether you two want it to become reality. I think you are both getting turned on by the idea of you having sex with someone else.
The key thing here is to be on the same page. It sounds like you are interested in making this a reality, or you wouldn't feel like you're being tempted to actually do it. But I think you are hesitant because you feel like you'd be cheating on your husband. You should just talk to him about whether he wants this to really happen. If so, maybe it can, and maybe it can be good for both of you. If not, you should tell him that if it's going to remain fantasy, the thing with him soliciting other guys on line is a step too far, and you just want to think about it but not actually do anything.
Talk about mixed signals.... wow! Sorry he's turned on you. Sounds like you've finally come around to doing and acting like he wants, and then he shut it off to you personally but still persues it on line?! Jeez... he needs to figure out if he wants to bring other ppl into your relationship or not. Sounds like you've been there, done that, so you should talk to him about why you didn't want to go there again with him. IE bad results, jealousy, whatever it is that blocked you from wanting it with him. As for the picture, yes he crossed the line. If he's so open about wanting to bring others into it, then he should have consulted you and built whatever profile he's using WITH you, not on your behalf. Talk it out. That's all I can say. Talk.
These are your husband's fantasies, even the online photo and the emails. He's a perv, but he doesn't really want you to boink anyone.
The big problem here, is he likes to tell you about his fantasies, and it's starting to change you, and make you want things he doesn't really want you to want. I think you're at a breaking point, too.
My advice is that the two of you better start fantasizing about different stuff for a while, or you're going to cheat. If you do, I'll bet he freaks out.
Omg, your husband has some issues! Why would he post a nude pic of you online!? He obviously has no respect for you. I wouldn't give him any sex at all. He must want you to cheat on him so he could have a reason to be mad at you.
His problem is, he watches too much porn and wants some kind of fake intimacy from you. That's not how life works. Tell him to cut out the teenage behavior or else no sex from you. This sounds really rediculous of him.
sounds like hes missing a few bricks....he definately is insecure....please get divorced before you cheat (you will) on him though.....that will just add more drama if you dont
I'm sorry but I think there's something wrong with this picture..
Your husband is trying to get other guys to have sex with you and wanting you to think of OTHER men while having sex with him?
Okay sounds like your husband doesn't have much respect 4 you or your marriage, I doubt if he will even care if you had sex with someone else.
This is a serious relationship problem. I hate saying people should divorce, but.....
I don't understand what you're asking. If you and your husband both want you to get it on with another guy, I'm not going to judge either one of you. Just make sure you both agree to all the rules beforehand, and practice safe sex.
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