Can anyone help on this please i need some advice please I separated from my husband for 1year met someone?

much younger than me the problem is i have returned to my husband to make my marrige work as we had 33years together and its so worth saveing lack of commuication you could say thats why we separated my husband knows i met someone else he knows him and of course does not like him as he thinks he broke our family up we have grown up kids now i have a problem i put a closure to the guy i met but he is haveing trouble excepting this my husband knew i rang him to tell him which we have honesty now but i emailed him to let him know i have to sort my life out with my husband i dont know if i tell my husband cause i done nothing wrong i just want to end it with this guy and i have but he wont allow it and i am scared he may cause problems caused i email him i dont want to tell my husband cause unessary hurt when nothing is going on we are trying to work our marrige out please advice i so want my marrige to work out i just am going to ignore this and ignore his emails with no reply helppppppCan anyone help on this please i need some advice please I separated from my husband for 1year met someone?
If you are truly trying to reconcile your marriage, and it sounds hopefull. This is what you do. [and it will helpyour husband trust you] It's called a no contact letter.


';You write the other man a letter telling him that it was a mistake and you and your husband are reconciling the marriage and from the reciept of this letter their is to be NO FURTHER CONTACT WITH YOU OR YOUR FAMILY! NO phone calls, no letters, no e-mails, no gifts, no flowers,no visits,and no confrontations with you or any of your family. You are keeping a copy of this letter to show the police if any contact is made.'; You make three copies, 1) you send to him registered, 2) you keep with the reciept of the registed letter #3) you show to your husband to prove that it is over. Now no contact means no contact. Block his Phone #, and block his E-mail, and if he makes contact call the police. you cand have him charged with herassment, and at the very least he will get a court order to keep his distance and have no contact.


{Two birds one pen.}Can anyone help on this please i need some advice please I separated from my husband for 1year met someone?
you messed arrownd and now you dont want to pay the consequences???? I suggest stay with the guy your husbant will never forgive you, and between you and me in less than 6 mounts you will bang another dude...nothing wrong with that but you have to choose, either obidiant loving wife or independent smart woman witch one are you...there is no inbetween
Because of the past trust issues, You have to be totally honest with your husband,





Tell your husband briefly,





Tell the other guy, to STOP one last time, and if he continues go to the police.





Best wishes.
You need to be honest let your husband know what is going on and show him your email that you sent. This will reassure your husband that you are dedicated to your marriage. vs your husband finding out and not trusting you.
Ignore his emails and don't reply back...If he still tries to harass you...go to the police and report him....





I also agree with the first poster....tell your husband...because you need to be the one to tell him...and not this other guy....
if it were me ignore this guy..stop emailing him!!!!!!!!!!!


If he causes issues GET A restraining order..but block him on your cell phone and change your number!


you want to work on this marriage then stop it!
you mentioned honesty and I think that you had better stay on that route. You need to tell your husband that you called this guy and when and why you did it. You two are working on your marriage, which is very commendable, considering you have many years and grown children together. This is most important. That other guy is definately going to tell your husband and if don't want to have to face your husband and answer to him for something you should have told himabout, it will make you look like a liar if you don't just tell him and deal with it. You have obviously had to work thru some issues to get back to where you are. One more thing like this isn't going to make him walk out.....but if the other guy gets to him first, I think he just might, or will never trust you again. Good luck!!! P.S. the longer you ignore this guys emails, the more angry he is going to get. Only one way to stop it...tell your hubby.
Block him on your email, take his number out of your cell phone or address book. Erase everything you have linked to him. Shut him out of your life 100%. You do not owe the other man any further explaination, you are another man's wife since the 70's, you had an affair and it's over. Do not make any more contact with him for any reason. Treat him as dead to you from today on. Evaluate your reason for emailing him after you told him it was over. If it was valid, tell your husband about it, don't hide it to save an uncomfortable situation. If he finds out your hiding things,you'll delay your marriage healing. If lack of communication is what cause you to separate then your doing the same thing by hiding it from him. However if you emailed the guy for a little comfort sake of fear of letting go in any sort of way, then you have bigger problems that are not going to go away by pretending the feelings don't exist and your marriage will not mend until your feelings are resolved.