Need Advice from Married People Regarding Selfish Husband. Please Help!?

I'm sitting home again,crying and am also very sick with the flu. When we got married, my husband of 7 yrs started a home building business. I quit my job as a college professor to help him start and pretty much do all of the office and accounting work full time without pay. Our business is very sucessful. The business is his #1 priority. Second is his little girl (only child but I'm 6 mths preg.) and frankly I don't know where I stand. My husband is kind, doesn't yell or hit. He is loving toward our little girl but not to me. He rarely does any family activities whatsoever. He rarely does any house work, cooking etc whereas I do everything. He did cook breakfast this morning while I was in bed sick but only for himself and then walked out the door. He never buys me any xmas or bday presents and is always miserable around the holidays. I'm so worn out. I'm not a prude but he rarely wants sex. When he does he basically just says come and take care of me. Please help.Need Advice from Married People Regarding Selfish Husband. Please Help!?
get divorced- take the kids - the house - half the money and business and then you might be happy.Need Advice from Married People Regarding Selfish Husband. Please Help!?
stop whining he is taking care working!!! get a life will you. I'm sick and tired of hearing about stuff like yours. Mine works till 10pm and on holidays in that kinda of buisness and i dont complain, he makes time for me and our son. anyway he probly feels misrable because you get on his nerves!
My ex was the same way. Being treated this way diminishes your self esteem and makes you feel worthless. You have to decide if your husband and your life together is worth more than your sanity.
your marriage is in a rut... how did you two ever get together... you need to be happy for the children... you have your education... if you aren't happy .. you can make it on your own.. with child support.... but... first... talk to your husband and tell him everything you need ... and if he isn't willing to meet you half way.. kick him to the curb... raise your children and have a wonderful life... life is to short .. to waste it... on anyone who can't be good to you....i think it nice that he works hard... but so do you... that no reason not to treat you well.... you will get thru this..... you got to be strong... decide what you want your future to be... good luck
it doesn't matter what we say here, You will be in the exact same position in 5 years time.
I think you two need marriage counseling.
More than selfish, he's egocentric. Talk to him about what are your expectations from him. Maybe is time for you to come back to work outside of his world. Or maybe, is time to talk about divorce.You're as important as him in the relationship.
I think we need more info to help you make a judgment here. Did he not exhibit these signs beforehand? Was he different and has now turned into this selfish creature? If he's no different that when you married him, did you think he would change?
He has always been like this and you have allowed it to go on for 7 years. You should have known from the start that one day you would wear out. You should have demanded more a long time ago. You may or may not be able to save this marriage by going to counseling but I think it might even be to late for that. He seems to be happy with the way things are. But either go to counseling or get out ot the relatiobnship because it is making you sick.
Your husband is selfish. You said it best, the business comes first you are lucky if you are even in the top 5. Money is the root of all evil and in your home money is God.


You need to go back to work after you have this baby and claim part of yourself back. I do not see you and your husband making it long term unless he makes significant psychological changes.
First of all your pregnant and we all know how pregnant women have emotional out burst.


So just relax and think about it? So he works his butt of and you do the paper work?


How long does that really take?


Ok look I am a single mom with two businesses and four kids I do everything myself.


I used to be you.


I wish I was you again!


Your life is not that bad. I mean he works his butt off to provide men are providers I would not expect my husband to cook clean ect...if I stayed home and did paperwork.


You got a wonderful husband and you know it and if you don't want him send him my way!


Life is not better out here trust me! You might get a guy who wants sex all the time but then he will not provide be a good father or he may even be on drugs.


You have a life that women dream of.


I am not saying this to piss you off but really I was you and I thought I had it so bad that was 8 years ago.


I would do anything to have that life again.





Relax have some tea and when he comes home give him a big kiss
He is very selfish and arrogant. If you think the situation is painful, you two need to talk and/or solving the issue with or without counselling. Definitely, you have some problem within your marriage but it does not sound disasterous. He is a nice guy but he needs to care more more. On the otherhand, when you are pregnant, is he taking up your workload at the office?





You just do not want to keep it by yourself inside your heart else it will create depression. pregnancy brought psychological stress on lots of woman and they need extra care, let your husband and your family knows.





Best wishes.
The two of you need to go to counselling. Sounds like alot of issues are going on here that a yahoo answer is not going to solve.





It sounds as though there is apart of you that does not feel that you are appreciated for what you have given up for his dream and in general as his wife. Also that you don't feel you are a team anymore. After having kids it can make a relationship distant. It also seems that there is a feeling of jealousy because you are saying where you are rated in his life.





Please go to counselling. If not together you on your own.
Why do you even stay? it sounds as if your life with him is just so miserable and lonely that i wouldn't be able to tolerate it for ever. I know you have a daughter and are pregnant but once the baby is born you'll have even more work to do and have an absentee husband as well. What do you get out of this marriage? certainly not much fun, love or support. You need to make him realise that he has a wife as well as a business and that you are prepared to leave if he doesn't change his ways.