My meth addicted husband wants me ask people onyahoo anwers for advice because he thinks he deserves more time

my husband seems to think that my dicisions were based in great part on yahoo,s answers (its not) he has told me so many reasons as to why he does meth and why he cant stop.anyway he said he would go to rehab and give me his complete checks over to me,ive heard all this before and i dont trust what he says at all any more, because he lies very well and is abusive ,mostly verble,threatens me constanly ,im sure its because hes scared but then so am I.am divorcing him and he wants it to stop and him stay in the home.1. First of all he said he would have his work check put in my name and sent dirrectly to me it never happend he said his employer would not do it , even though im half owner of his truck it in writing. 2.when hes on a down time from meth he dont work a lot and has lied in past and told me there was no work so i called to verify sure enough he was suppose to be working I have no control over anything (except for his heart).3. he spends his money before he gets it .My meth addicted husband wants me ask people onyahoo anwers for advice because he thinks he deserves more time
if his lifestyle doesn't agree with you then he's not right for you. Get your divorce and go find another guy. If he can't leave you alone, nothing helps a person renew there life better then relocation. even if its temporary, just don't tell him where your going.My meth addicted husband wants me ask people onyahoo anwers for advice because he thinks he deserves more time
leave. u are already a statistic by staying with an abusive user...don't be a statistic being buried because of it. i went to a funeral last year for a woman that was stabbed to death by her husband...he did it in front of three of the kids. she was in the same place u are...exactly. be strong and be wise.
If his life's decisions are based on what's said here then here's a good but very hard way to start his rehabilitation process, and I hope everyone else shares my sentiments:





Kick his sorry loser pathetic behind to the curb. Sounds like he needs to lose everything to get himself a wakeup call, IF that's even possible. Sounds like you've given enough chances. Now it's time for you to take control of YOUR life.
If he's still lying - then he doesn't deserve any more time. Kick his butt out of the house and when he gets clean perhaps you two can talk about having a civil relationship. Until that happens, you need to go about your own life doing your own thing.
IT IS HARD TO QIUT,BUT IF HE LOVES YOU ENOUGH HE WILL,YOU SOUND LIKE YOU HAVE GAVE HIM SOME GOOD


OPORTUNITIES TO QUIT.GIVE HIM SOME TOUGH LOVE.TELL


HIM TO GROW UP
let him go hun that is gonna ruining your relashionship and ur health that a diseas and u will catch it if u keep up with his **** so get ride of him he is not worth ur love
i have a lot of sympathy for your situation. i see that you are very angry and have made up your mind. do what is right for you. if your husband truly loves you then he'll sraighten up and put up or shut up. addiction is a disease and i agree he'll need a lot of help to overcome it however, overcoming an addiction is possible. best of luck to you.
Why are you with him....If he is doing meth what are you doing, drinking???? You need help because you are not seeing right yourself. You talk about him, but you need to look at yourself. You know dang well a meth head is nothing but T-R-O-U-B-L-E.....When are you going to wake up!!!
give it 2 him ok,,,1st lose the truck yhat,s where the meth started 2nd put him in re hab ...........where the cash going ............try **** dealer
get out
Well, I will type slowly. Dont try to ask a guestion and at the same time make yourself look like a queen. You promised him life, under all circumstances,did you not? If you didnt, sorry but that is what the words meant. If you didnt understand them, sorry that your are ignorance of the language. Maybe you should have been straight when you took the vows or you should have asked for clarification.
Just leave him and get it over with. You know that's what you should do! I had a boyfriend that kept promising me he wasn't gonna smoke crack anymore. I finally just moved out of state to get away from him because he wouldn't leave me alone. Always wanting money, wanting me to smoke too, he would get mean when I would tell him to leave the house - it was awful!
I really feel for you on this. My brother is a cocaine addict and we have been dealing with this for 5 years now. He got divorced and his drug use skyrocketed. He lost his car, his home and finally after his 2nd failed drug test ..lost his job. He is 47 yrs old..living with his dad...driving a car in dads name..we have sent him to 4 rehab places..just got out of one a few months ago..he preaches the 12 step program and says he is clean and all is well...but I have heard it ALL before..I have told him it will take time for me to believe him...So sad to have gone from a wife and 2 beautiful daughters..70,000 a yr job to being 47 and have nothing...working for 8.00 an hour doing manuel labor..my brother would sleep alot when he ws off drugs...i think because on the drugs he did not sleep..this is a terrible thing to face adn there is no quick fix answer...he will not get clean for you..for his job..for his kids..he has to do it for HIMSELF..I alwasy heard that when they hit rock bottom they would get help..ZI thought loosing everything was rock bottom for my brother..but as it turns out his rock bottom seemed to be the fact that he was not allowed to live at daddys anymore..so it was either the streets or rehab...but time will tell.. God Bless you and yours...
Got no Idea what age group you are in but I am familiar with the problems created by the availability of very pure Meth.


';Ice'; is addictive as hell! Reality is it is probrably a crutch that has become an obsesion.


Even trying to put him into rehab is not likely to help.


Options I could reccomend other than ditching this person you have pledged to help through thick and thin-Please try to help Him-he needs it.


Water the stuff down big time! Make it sooo weak that he can fall asleep 2 hours later! Then when it is time to go ';Cold Turkey'; he won't suffer the withdrawels. Substitute Caffiene pills if it helps at the time of breaking away!


Move! Get him out of the environment that he is in and go somewhere where Mexican ';Ice'; is not so readily availabe.


What is another desperate but in my opinion very dangerous and foolhardy manuvere(He might have several sources anyway) is to report his supplier. Unfortunately you will find that without correcting the addiction, that it will just be a short term solution!





For what it is worth, all through the 50's and 60's Speed was readily available and even Elvis loved the stuff-Why do you think so many of the great generation needed false teeth?


Also, what in the world do you think is the key ingredient in medicine for AADD and ADD-Idiot parents trying to keep their kids alert in school are just supplying very weak speed!-DUH!!!


In closing, I would again like to EMPHASIZE that it is the PURITY that is the single biggest reason so many Americans are getting strung out-It does a real number on your pleasure senses at the purer level-Instant Addiction!





If you ever really loved your husband stay with him and help him-he needs you more than his addicted mind even knows!
girl go on with your plans ! no future in a meth head ! been there - done that - got the t shirt ! good luck in everything !!! happy new year !
So what is your question???
I am so sure we have talked before--He needs to hit rock bottom--he needs to not have a place to go and hide with his drugs--he has to loose his wife, folks, everything--so that he can make his decision to get help--He is going to turn you inside out with worry and grief--Why are you letting him make your life hell--make him go-now--He doesn't deserve anymore of YOUR time--GO GO GO
how many times have u forgiven him, and waited patiently to see changes, how many times has he made u promises and broken them? how many lies has he told u? he is wasting your life, and putting u in a bad environment, and eventually will pull u down to his level. of course he wants to stay in the home, it's safe with u, u don't hold him accountable when he messes up. Truth is until he has to suffer some serious pain he won't change. until he hits rock bottom and sees the drugs are taking him no where but to the road to hell, there won't be any changes. u weren't created to be abused and lied to. seek some counseling, and some spiritual therapy, so u can get past this man.
HIS TIME HAS EXPIRED........ESPECIALLY AT THIS POINT... YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS OUT LIFE LIE IS TO SHORT TO GO THRU THIS KIND OF S***.....THAT'S A COPE OUT FOR HIM ABOUT GOING TO REHAB.....DON'T BUY THAT.. HE TRYING TO STALE YOU....GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL HAVE YOUR LIFE....JUST MAYBE HIS NEXT BINGE WANT BE SO SWEET.. AND ON THE OTHER HAND YOU CANT HAVE ANY THING IN LIFE USING.......WHATS THE HOLD Up?........YOU SEE HES CONSTANTLY LYING ABOUT THAT .....TIME WAITS ON NO ONE.....CUT YOUR LOSES AND MOVE ON.....DON'T LOOK BACK/
Sweetheart,


All the lies he has had come out of his mouth, are the meth talking. He has a nasty habit that has taken over him. Think of seeing him in the window of a mental institution. Would the things he says and does make you feel the same way? You are dealing with addiction. I would highly recomend finding the closest alanon/narcotics anonymous group that you can for YOUR sanity. I am about to start going to an adult children of alcoholic's meeting and a narcotic's anonymous meeting here in St Paul Mn. I do not know where you are, but find out where you can go for the support you need to stay sane and healthy. You are beautiful and you deserve the very best in life. Do not ever settle for abuse. We were not put on this earth for that kind of treatment. From ,my heart to yours, sister.
I am a recovering drug addict myself (11 years clean). PLEASE READ....





You desperately need to go to AL-ANON. This is a support group for people who have dealt with addicts. Many of them have years of experience and they can help you with your situation. You can find some peace and happiness for yourself in this world, even if he chooses to continue this lifestyle. He will only get worse with time. He is going to end up dead or in jail if he doesn't seek help. The sad part is, that he has to want help really bad before anything will even begin to work. If you leave, it could actually help him get more miserable and hit bottom, so he could begin to work his way back up. It is possible to recover, but the odds are really stacked against him. Good luck!





here's the link for Al-Anon





http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.h鈥?/a>





ONE MORE THING - IF YOU DON'T GET SOME HELP AND SUPPORT FOR YOURSELF, YOU WILL MOST LIKELY END UP WITH SOMEONE ELSE THAT IS JUST LIKE HIM. WE TEND TO PICK THE SAME SORT OF PEOPLE OVER AND OVER UNLESS WE FIND OUT WHAT'S GOING ON INSIDE OUSELVES FIRST.
I too have heard it all from my husband who is addicted to crack. Because of his addiction we are now separated for the upteenth time (I have lost count). As you know it is a very hard situation to be in. So much has happened so can't go in to details here but an incident that happened recently has me more determined than ever to stay separated until he gets help and stays with that help. I wish you all the best. I realize I haven't given you anything to work with, just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.
KLet him go to rehab, reiterate that this is his last chance, if he does not kick the habit, get rid of him before he drags you down with him. While he's doing it, it's very important that you are supportive and encouraging. If he really wants to, with time and with your help, he can change.





If he doesn't, MAYBE, you leaving will be the kick in the *** he needs. If not, at least you got out of a bad situation.





Good luck