I need some advice, i want to help my friend and not piss off my husband?

i live in indiana, my best friend lives in kentucky, and my husband is in the military and in iraq right now, my best friend's husband is divocing her and she is moving to florida tommorrow (where we are both from) and she is begging me to drive down with her and stay for a couple days for emotional support, she just asked me this evening and i want to but i think my husband would be really pissed if i just left with out telling him first, i cant call him cause he is over seas, would i be wrong to leave state to take care of my friend, what should i do


P.S. my friend is paying for me to goI need some advice, i want to help my friend and not piss off my husband?
Your husband is obviously important to you. He should also be understanding of things that happen where you are needed. You can't reach him during an emergency when he is half way across the world. Your friend is important to you as well. She needs you. I think your devotion is to her at the moment. Would you have to get your husband's permission if a relative died and the funeral were out of state? It's the same thing, only your friend's marriage died and she needs you. If he loves you, he will understand. As long as you're not neglecting things at home like a job, children, etc. If he just wants you sitting there so he knows where you are....that's b.s. I bet that's not the case though. I'm sure if a friend needed him you would understand as well. Good luck and go be there for your friend.I need some advice, i want to help my friend and not piss off my husband?
Hun, life goes on all around you every day and you can't put your life on pause cuz you're guy is in Iraq. You're a big girl, you can go if you want to.I'd suggest putting a message on your voice mail for him incase he calls before you get back.
Why would he be angry? It's only a couple of days. He's not even home. If you're worried you might miss a call from him, then just take your cell phone.


Is there some reason he doesn't want you spending time with this friend? I guess I'm confused about why he would be angry. Need more info. Seems like there must be more to the story.
Send him a message somehow that you are in florida.





go, go and help your friend
Yes, it would be wrong for you to go without your husband being notified of your trip. I am sure it would be fine with him, but still, common courtesy dictates he know before you do something like that. Wait until you can speak with him and then set a time up to visit with your friend in Florida.
Go silly, he can't be that controlling.
Go and help your friend. If your husband gives you any hassles about it, tell him he left without your permission and you can make an issue of that.
Write to him and tell him you see this as an opportunity to take your mind off all the fear and worry you go through thinking of him.Go ahead and go with your friend.By the time he gets the letter it will be all over anyway.Remember a friend in need is a friend in deed.
There's a whole lot missing from this story!





On a guess, I'm going to guess, your friend is somewhat of a ho and a party girl and your husband woulod automatically become suspicious if you took off with her for days at a time, probably worried about what type of people your friend may put you around.





Two hot chicks with no husbands around and in the porn capital of the East coast, florida... that's not a good thing, from a husband's perspective at least.
It is difficult enough for your husband in Iraq, don't make him worry about you by going on this trip. He may need to reach you, it is very comforting for him to know where you are, you must consider his feelings before anything else. You husband is more important then a friend. You could endanger your marriage by doing something, you know will upset your husband.
I think you should go and be there for your friend. Your husband is not here, first of all. Secondly, he should be understanding enough of the situation. It is your best friend you're talking about here.
It doesn't sound like an issue your husband should have a veto over.





Unless there are kids involved. But if you can do it in a way that they are looked after properly, then that should take care of it.
you know what?you are an awesome wife.Im sure your husband trusts you but if u are having second thoughts than maybe u shouldnt.
hi,if it were me i would go be with my friend for support but i would make sure my husband knew before i left,if not he will be worried sick about you then get upset with you because you didnt tell him,if he normally calls at a certain time then have someone you trust at your house to answer then phone and tell him ,be sure you have another number were he can contact you, so you can explain that you just wanted to support your friend without worring him,,take care
I don't know why it would hurt to be w/your friend who needs you at this time. You're not taking anything away from your husband nor doing anything against him. You have no way to get in touch w/him, which is neither of your fault. You could leave a message on your ans. mach. to call a certain number where you could be reached in case of an emgcy. If either of you have cell phones, you could leave either or both your nos. just to cover both bases. I'm sure you would be a great help to your friend just to have you w/her for support. I can't see any reason for you not to go as it is an act of kindness, you're not going for a joy ride nor a vacation. She needs you, be there for her %26amp; don't feel guilty for doing so. Good w/a good feeling of being there for someone who honestly needs you. Best to you %26amp; have a safe trip.
Do you have call forwarding? Go and help your friend. Your husband will understand. If you don't have call forwarding, change your answering machine message so if your husband calls, he will know how to find you. I am guessing you don't have kids to worry about so they should not be any reason not to go.
Why would your husband be pissed? You are a grown woman %26amp; he should have trust that you will do the right thing under any circumstance. Now it is one thing to be worried %26amp; another to be pissed. No one can tell you what to do in this situation. Especially if you have a husband that isn't too understanding.
Just e-mail him and tell him where you are going and when you will be back. All military personnel have access to e-mail.


He probably is not expecting you to not have a life just because he is downrange. He will most likely be happy that you aren't sitting by the phone waiting for him to call. Besides if he does get pissed....he is downrange.....once he gets back he will be so happy to not see sand he will have forgotten he ever was twisted up.
Why would your husband be mad? You didn't lie about going. This was an unexpected event that you are going to tell him about when you talk to him. I think you should go be with your friend. She needs you and you will regret it if you don't help her.
You are not doing anything wrong. You are going to be with your friend because she needs you for support. Why would your husband get upset? It isn't like you are going out to party or being promiscuous. If he doesn't understand that, then he should deal with it. It all depends on you though. If you needed support, would she be there for you?