Opinions and advice, please: Do you think my husband might be having an affair or attempting it?

(This is going to be a little long for the sake of explaining as much of the situation as I can. I apologize. But, please, bare with me.)





I would have never suspected this before now. But I accidentally heard a phone conversation that he was having with someone.





Honestly, it really was totally accidental (at least at first). I just happened to be on my way to the kitchen when I heard him talking on his cell upstairs (after he said that he was going to take a nap). He was talking very low, which is completely out of character for him. (He has a loud voice that carries and hardly EVER tries to lower it or speaker softly.)





Anyway, as I passed by the steps, I heard him say, ';I'm not tryin' to rush you.'; And, then, he asked, ';So ain't no chance for me, huh?';Opinions and advice, please: Do you think my husband might be having an affair or attempting it?
what is it with all you ';you need to talk to him, blah blah blah'; answerers? wake up. a man who is cheating on his wife is not going to admit it. if there was that level of openess in the relationship he wouldn't be cheating to begin with.





Latina honey, trust your instincts. If you think he's cheating, he probably is. PROBABLY. But don't react just yet. Instead, do nothing. And by nothing, I mean keep conversation cordial, but to a minimum. Keep up your appearance. Make plans with friends. Stop having sex with him IMMEDIATELY to protect yourself from disease. Give him a taste of what his life would be like without you. He'll realize -- if he's smart -- what he is risking.





And get your hands on the cellphone bill! A little ammunition never hurt.Opinions and advice, please: Do you think my husband might be having an affair or attempting it?
It's time to get in touch with a little thing called your ';gut';. Now that you have suspicion. watch him even closely. Whenever he leaves his phone alone....go and look at it. Now men who don't cheat don't carry phones to bathrooms, kitchens, because they don't have anything to hide, so watch how protective of how he is on the phone. Try to come on to him more often and see his reaction. Meanwhile you open a savings account and starting stacking money, just in case you find something....if you haven't found hardcore evidence, try mentioning marriage counseling....see his reaction to that. You have to have your little games to play to see his actions to it all. But please start saving some money...lol. I hope that all is well with you and remain encouraged.
When a spouse is cheating, it's usually your gut that's right. Unfortunatley, most of us don't want to listen to our own gut if it means a person is cheating - but again - your intiution is usually 100% right when it comes to cheating. If you sense it, then it's probably happening.





What you overheard him say are certaintly things you say to a significant other.





I would get girls' phone number off his cell, if you had the courage I'd call the number and speak to the other woman. She may not even know he has a wife, or she may be trying to break it off with him, so I would start our kindly. She may also help aid your efforts in catching him when she learns that he was lying to her about having a wife...she may be just as betrayed as you.





If you don't have the courage to confront her, at least get the number off his cell, so you are armed with some sort of proof. You could look up her number on whitepags.com reverse phone number look up, and it'll tell you the registered name of the phone number, if it's a lan line (not if it's a cell though).





Then you will have to confront him. You can't ignore it and hope it goes away - this has to be resolved. Either he stops this behavior and you rebuild your relationship, or he choses her, or you kick him out, either way - something has to happen rather than letting the cheating continue while he's married. That can't start until you confront him.





Good Luck.
Hmm, the next time he takes his ';nap';, afterwards, I would get a hold of his cell phone somehow and see who's name is saved under the last number that he called. I agree with the other people about talking to him about it too. But then again, he can say one thing and do another. Being not married and never in this situation before, I'm not really sure how to handle it if you do find out that he is cheating, but please..kick him where it counts though. lol
Best thing to do is just talk to him. Tell him that you have noticed a difference in him and want to know what is bothering him. Open the door and give him a chance to speak on the subject. It may be nothing, and then again there could be something to it. Just being a optimist here, the conversation could have been a job offer or maybe he went to an interview. Just communicate with him and see if that gets you any closer to your answer. I wish the best for you and if you need someone to talk to, just send me a message. I might not can help, but I can listen.
You need to tell him what you over heard.....perhaps something has changed between you two or just with him. A marriage is a terrible thing to just throw away because of a hunch or a single attempted mistake.





I suggest that you try to get counseling and try to talk to him, be honest and admit you were listening, tell him how this has made you feel and be prepared to be quiet and listen to his response no matter what it may be.





Best of luck to you.
Don't wait for him to have to ';ask'; for sex, Beauty. What you must do in the following days is have sex with him e-v-e-r-y s-i-n-g-l-e d-a-y. Drain every drop of **** and energy out of him and make it your objective to give him the best sex he's ever had every time you do it. Don't forget to enjoy it yourself, too, since this is the best turn-on for a guy, but don't fake it (or if you have to, fake it). About the phone conversation you overheard, you think it could've been someone he's trying to get to hire him -at a better job- that you don't know about yet?
i would definatly go to him and talk to him just say i heard you talking and that hes been acting different ask whats up and say that if he is havning a affair or trying to have one to let you knw now before you get more hurt. if he doesnt say he is then i wouldnt just to conclusions, give him the benifit of teh doubt, but definatly keep a close eye and ear on him and maybe even do a little innocent snooping.
when there are changes in people and they are out of their usual character, they could be cheating. sounds as if he is setting it up, and acting on it. it happens alot when there are problems in a marriage, they often think that turning to another will be a cure all.
...Honey....is it possible to track his telephone numbers secretly..with the help of private detectives or by the service provider..,/ by going through his cell phone bills...and if you find any particular number frequently with long talk time.....then Honey I am sorry to tell you...yes he is...if you find any number like this..,then. Try to collect as much as proof and try to catch him red hand.,..but the same time you have to take care of your health (mental specially)..and for your kids.....,all the best...hope everything will be OK.
Sorry to hear things are not going great for you.....my partner cheated on me and that is what he done..he would speak really quietly on the phone and would never say see you later mate at the end of the call if it was to a guy....if he took a call in front of me from one of his mates i would always hear the mate talking as, as you say guys have loud voices ...but now and again i would hear nothing from the other side of the phone..like that person was whispering too...i started to sniff the collar of his shirts etc and was actually getting very paranoid until one day he came home late and was absolutely stinking of her perfume..he tried to deny it but there was no way he was convincing me......after he done it the first time, i got used to knowing the signs if he done it again......





have you asked him about this, it could be completely innocent but as you can see.....i am completely biased against this sort of thing i wouldnt take my opinion as gospel...i think he may be up to no good babe...but only you can find out for sure... i hope it works out good for you
He is cheating. All men cheat and they transmit diseases to the women. Get rid of him and move on with your life. He is only using you and keeping you along for rainy days when there is nothing else available.
sounds very suspicious to me.....get his cell phone check the numbers call them all if you have too.........





Get some facts. before you react.........
I would check out this book.





Trust your gut.