KEEP IT! please keep it. Im not gonna give you a whole big thing about god but think about your life down the road and how you will feel knowing that you made the decision to abort. If you cringed when your husband shouted abortion then think about how youll feel after its done. Whenever i hear about these things i think about how i would feel if i did this because i always like to put myself in other peoples shoes and this just makes me cry every time because i couldnt imagine going through with killing somone that was a part of me and didn't even get the chance. I believe in fate and that things happen for a reason so just try to think of this as something that was meant to happen and please think carefully about your decision and don't let it scare you or your husbands feeling influence you. i will keep you in my thoughts =)I may have gotten pregnant again, but husband agrees that abortion isnt the way to go, i need advice?
here take a look at this video and then you will make the perfect decision
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aLWt6VRIHU
It's been almost a year, why would you abort if you don't have to?
Go see your doctor. If you are at major risk by having another child, you need to be well informed of what could happen and what your options are. Take your husband and talk to your doctor honestly about your concerns. They can help you make the best decision for the two of you.
With your recent history, you need to discuss this at length with your gynecologist/obstetrician. Take your husband with you.
in 5 years you will ask yourself how could you ever have considered an abortion.
Think of the child playing with his or her friends....all the wonderful memories.
I know of noone who wishes that they had the abortion rather than the child.
First- you don't even have a confirmed pregnancy yet.
Second- If you had your son ten months ago and if you are pregnant again then your uterus will not start doing any serious stretching till the 2nd month or later which will be a year since your son was born, If what your doctor's are concerned about is Uterine Rupture.
Third- Adoption is an option, just not one you are willing to consider for whatever reason. Though I am unaware of how adoption is less fair to a child than aborting it.
Fourth- That all said, this is a decision for you and your husband after you have all the information from your doctor i.e. possible risks.
Adoption,though I agree with Pooty Booty...talk ,this descion has far reaching effects.
i think you shouldnt stress out so much until you absolutley find out if your pregnant. until then you should start making plans.
This is something that you and your husband need to discuss and decide together.
1) Abortion in the first trimester isn't going to make you less fertile. Just know that .
2) Regardless of whether you are or are not pregnant, you need to talk to your doctor about this as well. Surprises are going to happen, and now you have to make a decision. Even if you don't get a positive test tomorrow, bring your husband to the doctor and talk to your doctor about this--what are the dangers you would be facing? What dangers would the baby be facing?
In the end, there is no right answer. You and your husband need to decide TOGETHER.
i agree with the other person!!
If you are pregnant and you were being careful, I would think it's fate. Don't have an abortion, just think how would you feel to have your 10 month old gone because you had had an abortion. I think you and your husband can make it work with a second. He may complain now and you might complain too for a while, but if and when the baby arrives you both would love it so much. Just don't do anything that in your heart you know you will regret.
Adoption.. dont be a murder
Do what makes you and your husband happy, But just remember abortion i find to be a little wrong, because the baby didnt do anything wrong, they shouldnt deserve to be destroyed like how they are during an abortion. But like i said you and your husband have to be happy with whatever decision you make.
Not a question you want to leave in the hands of strangers on the net. It sounds like you and your husband have some serious talking to do.
My personal feelings are that abortion isn';t an option --
easy for me to say, --keep the youngen and ask God to help
you work out the technicalities.
Same thing happened to me and my wife. I left it up to her and she said she can't do an abortion. We decided to keep the baby and tough it out. She is due in Nov. We know it's going to be tough but at least they will grow up together. In time it will get easier. ( I hope) As long as you are strong you'll make it. My dad raised 3 of us on a $10/hr job. I just look at that.
and for all those that are quick to judge about abortion. Tell em to F off. It's your body. I can't stand all the moral people we have in this country. I bet if we looked in their closet we can find some skeletons too.
First off hun it's been nearly a year from your son's birth already. The baby will not be big enough to cause damage to your uterus by the time you hit the arbritary 1 year mark. Definately make a doctor's appointment and have them do the exams to make sure your uterus is in good condition and go from there.
I'm sorry your husband was so insensitive. On the flip side I know for a fact that having a little boy almost a year old is a very trying time of development and he may not be ready to jump into raising another baby so soon. Also look at the fact that he may be scared s**tless after what you went through to have your son and is terrified of what may happen this time around. He just reacted with a gut instinct.
And just a little info even if you are perfect in how you take birth control pills it is still quite common to get pregnant if thats the only method of prevention used. My sister has a 1 year old daughter to prove it!
Having had two miscarriages.........life is so precious.
i think the first thing you should do is speak to your ob and discuss how a pregnancy this early after a c-section is going to affect you....you may not have an option...
get all the medical facts and then make a decision....
The pill can fail, even if you take it religiously and perfectly. It usually doesn't, but you may be the lucky 1 in 100 (or whatever the number is) who got pregnant on the pill this year.
10 months is pretty close to a year. When they told you to wait a year before getting pregnant again, they couldn't know the exact rate at which you would recover. If you want to know if your body is ready to handle another pregnancy, I strongly advise talking to your doctor. It seems likely to me that you could be physically ready for another baby.
I'm not sure why adoption isn't an option. It's what I'd do in your position (assuming the doctor thought the pregnancy is safe for me), even if it's unconventional.
well it depends how old you are, if you are very young like 17-19 and have a child maybe you should abort, but if your 20 and up you should ask your parents or a very close friend you trust, and ask what they would do. But if you are young having to many children might put you a risk. but the choice is yours just make syre it's what you feel is right.
umm well i dont think that abortion should be used as a form of birthcontrol so i agree with u on that point but if its not health for u to have the baby now then im sure fait will have a of working things out and making ur pregnance a more healthy one or eleminating the problem all to gether not that its a problem but u no wat i mean so i think that u should get checked my a doctor to find out if ur for sure pregnant and talk to him about it
options:
keep your legs closed
get your tubes tied
hubby get fixed
if you going to have sex, and even though your on the pill you must be prepared to pay the conq. god for bid you get pregnant. so be an adult and do the right thing.... if you get an abortion you'll be stuck look at your 10month kid for the rest of his life knowing he could've been the one your murdered...can you live with that
Dont abort that poor baby its still alive its like murder. i now that adoption isnt an option but that would be the way to go if you dont want it. Give the baby up for adoption before it gets conected to you!!!
Maybe you are panicking for nothing but i can understand how you feel I'm pregnant again i have a lovely 5months old son, I'm so scared to death but only thinking how i was sick when i was pregnant i feel sad, and don't want to go back again so soon so i have two choices abortion or having it and get depressed with it. In my opinion if you feel that you are strong inside and physically go for it but from what i read in your message you want to have it the only concern is you c-section , i would advice you to talk to your doctor.
Good luck and be strong
I am confused as to how abortion is a valid option but adoption isn't?? So you would rather kill your child than allow one of the thousands of childless couples who pray for a baby every day to parent your child? That's screwed up logic. I hope to God you aren't pregnant because anyone who would kill their flesh and blood doesn't deserve to procreate in the first place!
when u have an abortion u are basically murdering someone. that is a real human being.
dont be a muderer and keep the baby.. and if ther is any possible way u can put it up for adoption becuz u cannot care for it, do that.
nothing more i can say.. its up to u.. but try to do the right thing
your saying adoption isnt fair but even THINKING about killing the beating heart inside of you is?! you shouldnt have kids.
If you don't mind me asking- why isn't adoption an option? Because they recommended you not have a baby so soon? Does the doctor think it is too risky so soon? I had a c-section, but it was only the bikini line cut, so my doctor didn't say anything about getting pregnant too soon. I would say that you need to ask some questions of your doctor, and see if it is medically okay for you to have another baby so soon. If he believes it is, I would look into adoption. There are so many people in the world trying to conceive that just can't have a baby. Also, you and your husband need to sit down and have a LOOOONG talk about what you both want. Best of luck to you.
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