About to move in with boyfriend but cant stop thinking about my ex husband. i need your help and advice?

was with my husband 7 years until last year when i left. ive left him a few times before because so many arguments, no loving/caring. no sex life. and sometimes the arguments would escolate into me getting shoved or pushed (he didnt hit me though). we both did things wrong and it seemed like we couldnt get over causing each other so much pain. i always thought we would have a family etc.





i met him when i was 21, i am now 28 and have now met someone else. like me he is an artist and i am also going to university on monday to make something of my life. i have been very happy but suddenly i cant seem to believe that i will never be with my ex husband again. we always used to get back together but this time i have held out and i feel sad.





i love my new partner and we have been together almost a year now and this weekend i am moving in with him. i keep thinking that the dayi move in will really be the end of my marriage. i have been so excited but suddenly the loss of my marriage has hit me and i am in tears right now. i really need your help.





do i get back with my husband and try once again to make it work or should i try and make a new life with my new partner? which ever one i choose will be very painful. why do i feel this way? can you help?





louise xAbout to move in with boyfriend but cant stop thinking about my ex husband. i need your help and advice?
I love your hat.





if your ex is willing to take you back, he ain't worth going back to.





your new guy isn't making your husband a distant fading memory for you. that makes him not worth being with.





so my answer?





brake up with your new guy, start a new life as a single woman and start fresh.





About to move in with boyfriend but cant stop thinking about my ex husband. i need your help and advice?
I went through the same thing. It's REALLY hard for me because she wants to be friends and calls me 2-3 times a week.





-_-





It's been 3 years and there are still lingering feelings, but every day gets easier. Give it time. You'll be ok.



I think what you got now love and your past was not but sometime when we feel unsafe we want to go back to comfort situation the devil u no that do not sinaro but i push a head good luck
its hurts to think of someone who you had a life with but that life is over and it is time to focus on the now
end of an era baby...............you will be fine
Even though your husband is out of the picture, you probably still feel loyal to him because he was your husband. I feel the same way. I feel that when I get divorced I will still feel funny about being with someone new because I think it will feel like I'm cheating on my husband.





You've been with your ex for a long time and now you are making a big step with this new love. It's natural to feel anxious. About a week before I got married all I could think about is why I didn't marry my gay best friend. This just shows the irrational thoughts that go through a woman's mind when making a big decision. Hang in there sweetie, I know it's tough. But just know that if you and your ex are meant to be together, you will be together...no matter if you move in with this guy or not.





I also wanted to point out that we are completely different people at 28 than we were at 21. There is so much growth for us in that time period...so maybe you getting with your husband is just not what you want anymore...and there is nothing wrong with that.
This is completely normal! And your feeling this way because you haven't grieved the loss of your relationship before now. After my second divorce, I was quite devasted, and spent time writing my feelings down in a journal, and what helped me move on was when I realized that ALL relationships come to an end at some point (either a break-up, divorce or death) and so everyone goes through these exact same feelings at some point in their lives. I also realized that I couldn't start a new relationship until I dealt with the end of the old relationship. So I called my ex up one day and forgave him--not for his benefit--but mine! It was the hardest call I ever made, but I felt like a ton of bricks was lifted off from me.





You need to grieve the loss--cry, scream, whatever--then be excited that you are starting a brand new chapter in your life. Live life...and have no regrets...we are only here for a short time!





Good luck!
If you don't think you and your X are over, don't put your new man through your past relationship. Maybe a move into your new man's place isn't the best thing just yet? If you can go through your new relationship (move-in) without corrupting what can be a new and exciting time in your life, then go for it. I don't think you'll ever forget old loves no matter what you do, and that's fine. Just remember your new life can help you forget your past troubles if you let it.
Don't go back or you will waste another 7 years only to regret that you didn't get out this time.





Be glad you didn't have a family together. Could you imagine the emotional damage that would be done to that child? You two in and out of each others lifes, arguing and physical violence. Not a stable enviroment at all. A baby wouldn't ';solve'; the problem but make it worse because of all the added stress.





Start your life, you deserve better then what you had. Starting new can be scary but don't confusse being scared of change with feelings of love for your ex.