What advice can I give my sister about her husband.?

My sister called she is at her wits end. Her hubby of 3 1/2 yrs told her he is not in love with her and never was, even when they married. He pays her NO attention, does not help her with anything at home. Doesnt talk to her, the only time he does pay her attention is when someone in the family is there. One time when her son was there he was all nicey nice. When her son left he ask her does your son think that you are loved? Its like hes playing with her emotions. She is a mess and is wanting a divorce. I told her to get a lawyer and go for it. But the reason im asking is i would really like to hear your thoughts on this as well. Thanks in advance.What advice can I give my sister about her husband.?
Just be supportive of her but the ultimate decision is hers. She needs to definitely leave the marriage, she is not receiving love or attention and that is exhausting emotionally and physically. She also should seek counseling and family support is also a big help. He doesn't love her at all but uses her for his needs. Playing head games is a way to manipulate her to put up with his crap.


When family members come over he acts like nothing is happening between them and act like they have the best marriage. Family members coming over is the only time she is happy in that house. The only time she can communicate with him.


He is a idiot and good for nothing user.He is not a husband , just and idiot. He is not man enough to just leave but makes her miserable because he is miserable. He doesn't have the manhood to just leave her in a peaceful environment.


She needs to evaluate the situation. She's giving and he's taking. 1 - 1 = 0


Good LuckWhat advice can I give my sister about her husband.?
dump his @ss
It sounds like he is playing with her emotions and playing a mind game. I don't understand what would drive someone to be that way. Your sister does not deserve to live her life with someone so cruel. I don't know if counseling is the answer. She deserves better though.
I hate to be the bad-guy here, but I have to advise you to keep your opinions and advise to yourself! Your sister must make her own decisions without any outside interference. Your sister will never know how to step up to the plate and do whats best for her if she has you telling her what to do and how to do it! Im not saying not to be a loving sis, Im saying the next time she calls, tell her you love her but she needs to do this on her own, or if she wants advise, tell her to call a therapist! Understand another thing, their are always two sides to a story, how do we really know what happens in your sisters household? Your brother in law may have some issues that are justifiable? Bottom line here is, this is her marriage, let her make the calls, but let her know whatever choice she makes you have her back!
Wow, what a creap!!!!





I think she should follow your advice, for a husand to tell his wife that, would really cut to the bone!!!!!





She should follow your advice, and she should make herself happy with a man that truely loves her, not this moron!!!!





Have her live with you, and have her file for a divorce and help her look for a place of her own and help her get her feet underneather her, you are family and she needs you more than ever!!!!





Do the right thing! It is too bad she is miserable around the holiday season, but now is the time to make her happy, and do the right thing, during this hard time, she really needs the family to come together to help her out, so I would suggest this time is the perfect time now!





You will be doing the right thing!!!!
What's crueler?





To live in abject hope of the impossible forever, or to weep for a loss for a month?





There's your answer.
You're right Your brother in law is emotionally abusing your sister - probably mentally abusing her as well.


She should get a lawyer fast, and start protecting her financial interests. He sounds like the kind of guy who will bleed her to death. She should get out and quick right AFTER she talks to a lawyer.
the best would be divorce. He is in love with someone else. I completely sure.





regards
well he sounds kinda like a control freak, that is just a way of controlling her, if she is really treated this way maybe some marriage counsleing,and if that doesnt work then its time for her to move on.he sounds like a real a** i hope the best for her.
Your sister needs to become stronger than the hate that will eventually take over her life ......With your love she can reach the stars for a happier life ...Show her she is better than he has made her feel...... Show her with your support that the love you have for her which is giving and kind is not hurtful and cruel. ... Be with her every step of the way b/c maybe she feels alone . Abuse does this to you...... He is abuseing her to make her believe she is alone.....
If everything is as you say, then you and she are probably right - there is little or no chance for reconciliation. Sorry - and I wish her well.
You did the right thing. And hopefully your sister will go through with it. Tell her she is indeed loved, by you, by her son, and all the people that truly cares about her. She is not alone and won't be alone. She does not have to be scared, she will find someone that loves her for her.
The prick is emotionally abusing her. She should shag her bottom to a lawer and divorce his butt. He sounds so MEAN. She shouldnt even think twice about it. Sounds like she has NOTHING TO LOSE.
Tell her to put him out of her mind and file.
I agree with you. Get a divorce and start a new life. She will better off without him.
What a hurtful man, but maybe he is finally being honest with her. Yes, she needs to divorce and be happier in her life. Know you will be there to help her; perhaps you can visit her soon or she can come out and see you. A good cry, a warm hug will help.