Husband a porn addict?? or just a liar??? please advice?

WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT THIS? MY HUSBAND LIED TO ME. WHEN WE GOT MARRIED 3 YRS. AGO I ASKED HIM IF HE WANTD TO WATCH PORN W ME AND WE DID. HE SAID THAT DID NOT TURN HIM ON AT ALL, AND HE SAID HE DIDNT LIKE PORN SO I TOLD HIM TAHT IT WOULD BE THE LAST TIME US WATCHING PORN. THEN 3 WKS AGO I OPEND A CABLE BILL ONLY TO FIND HE HAD ORDERED 6 PORN MOVIES IN 1 MO.!! I WAS SHOCKD. HE HAD BEEN WATCHING PORN FOR 2 YRS AND NEVER TOLD ME AWORD. I ALSO FOUND OUT HE HAD SPENT AROUND A THOUSAND $ IN WEB PORN!! BESIDES HE USED TO TALK ABOUT MY DAD BECAUSE HE USED TO WATCH PORN, HE WOULD SAY MY DAD WAS A NASTY MAN FOR WATCHING PORN.. EVER SINCE I FOUND OUT ABOUT THIS I CANT STAND HIM. I THINK HE IS A LIAR, I CANT RESPECT HIM. I CANT TRUST HIM EITHER. I GAVE HIM THE CHANCE 4 US TO WATCH IT 2GETHER AND HE DECIDED TO WATCH IT ALONE AND LIE TO ME. AM I BEING TO HARSH? OR TO EXAGERATED?


PLEASE LET ME KNOW WHAT U THINK.





hottsophiesmom@yahoo.comHusband a porn addict?? or just a liar??? please advice?
I don't think you are being to harsh. He lied to you. Any guy who spends that kind of money on porn has issues. I think he is an addict and a liar. Tell him your issues and see what he says. I will watch porn with you anytime. Give me a call!!Husband a porn addict?? or just a liar??? please advice?
First, please do not enter questions in all caps. They're very hard to read.





Yup. I sounds like he's addicted. That much money, the hiding, the lying, the self-recrimination.





No, you're not being too harsh if you're landing on him with both feet about it. I urge you to demand that he get into treatment and get into a program. Now! http://www.sa.org





However, you can choose to trust and respect. They're both informed choices, no doubt, but still purely your choice. The question you have to answer is: are you willing to walk the long and difficult road to recovery with him?
I think you two must of talked about your Dad and he got your thoughts on what you thought about it. He said to you what HE thought you wanted to hear. The more he thought of it being forbidden the more he got hooked into it. My first husband would talk to my family and tell them how bad it is for a person to cheat on their spouse. He would say that he would never do that to jeopardize our relationship well guess what he cheated on me. I think those type of men are habitual liars and they are so bad the start to believe their own lies. I would be angry at both. He lied and he is addicted to porn. He needs tough love. You either pack your things or pack his. He needs to learn a lesson.
It sounds like he is ashamed of him liking porn around you...and for good reasons! Porn is devastating to a marriage, not to mention lack of devotion and trust is causes a couple to have towards one another.


It makes both a liar, because porn shows that you don't want each other, you want something more than you both have to offer each other, therefore it would be open cheating if you both shared a porn interest together, he is just cheating without you now.
Loads of guys watch porn and like to watch it alone. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you but he could still have a problem if it's getting addictive. Also depends how wierd the porn is. Another problem is the cost. These days there's no need to pay for porn online.





I'd confront him wth the bill, appear to accept whatever rubbish excuse he comes up with and see if the situation improves.





If you find out that for whatever reasons you still can't stand him then there's really only one option,





best of luck
Porn ruins lives. Make sure to get him some professional help.
You offered, good girl. No your not being too harsh. It turns him on and he is obviously ashamed about it for some reason.





I would add disgusted to your list. He has a good wife and he is too perverted to take advantage of the situation.
Great Googley-Moogley
he is both a porn addict and a liar...sit him down and calmly tell him how you feel. anyone who spends a thousand dollars in porn is addicted. if he gets very defensive and lies, etc....the two of you should go to counseling.
he probably didnt like the way you acted when you watched porn together, but yeah that is a lot of money to spend on internet porn when alot of the good stuff is free, he must be into some 2 girls 1 cup stuff, or donkey shows, either get on the boat or jump ship, once porn is in the bloodstream it will never go away
he is dumb. my hubby is not allowed to watch porn period so yours should be thankful that you offered to watch with him. He is a big fat liar. How is he going to talk about your dad like that and then do it himself. WTF
there are times when a man just needs to sit down by himself and spend quality time with his penis. whether or not he's recieving sex from a partner is irrelevant. all men masturbate by themselves often. the real question is why he's stupid enough to spend so much money on it.
Make a deal, he spends your money on porn, and you spend an equal amount on something else. Or how about you watch it with him? You might find that you actually enjoy it.
Let him open the mail from now on so that you will not find out about the porn movies....This should solve the problem.....
I don't see how a guy could not be turned on by watching...isn't that why it's so popular among mainly men? My husband will watch porn once in a while when I'm not home, or when we haven't been together for a while. I don't mind, at least he stays out of strip clubs and he's not cheating on me. As long as he's not spending our hard earned money on videos that we could make ourselves or watching strippers do what I could do for him...with a happy ending;) I don't understand why it's become this thing that everyone is ashamed to admit they watch. It's almost silly. As far as your situation, I'm sure he acted like he didn't like porn as to lead you to believe so. Maybe he's addicted. It becomes a hard habit to break. I think the whole idea that it's naughty makes it more alluring. He just didn't want to tell you, he may be embarrased. All I can say is communication, communication, communication!
sounds like you both have issues and need to be spanked for being bad
No, but do ask him why he spent so much money on this foolishness?
He is lying to you. Men always get turn on when they watch porn unless they just finish having sex few seconds ago..xD
I THINK HE IS A SELFISH LYING AZZHOLE AND WHY ARE WE ALL YELLING???!!!
$1000 in porn? My wife would kill me!!!





Just ask him what kind of porn he's into. Maybe it's gay or fetish porn that he's embarrased about. Or he likes it by himself so he can whack without you. I tried showing my wife some of my fetish porn and she said I could watch those by myself...lol
I think you have a right to be angry, especially since he's spending marital funds to ';fund his habit';. So much of it is out there for free, that I think he has some issues or he wouldn't be spending all that money on it.





I also think maybe he was a bit jealous of YOU watching it, and that's why he hid it. A lot of people like to run their own agenda behind the scenes, but want you to be the perfect, virgin wife/husband.





To me, hiding things (secrets) are lying by ommission.


Lying is one of my pet peeves.


Once the lying starts, the trust begins to crumble.


Without trust, you have nothing.


I'd sit him down and have a ';come to Jesus'; meeting.


If we couldn't compromise or get on the same page somehow, then the ball is back in MY court, and I have to decide what I'M going to do.
yea what a retard, he can just go to www.limewire.com and download it for free
you can install NetDog Porn Filter :http://www.netdogsoft.com on the computer, netdog will block all porn sites quitely in the background when your husband's on the internet.
';he is dumb. my hubby is not allowed to watch porn period';





ROFLMFAO - Talk about whipped.......





Frankly I don't see anything wrong with watching it, but the fact that he lied and spent the $$$ is a problem.





I see nothing wrong with naked people having sex, but lying and spending the family $$$ is an issue.





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