Need advice on my 15 yr. old daughter and husband.?

I've have let my daughter go way overboard in the disrespect area with my husband largely because I feel guilty that her biological father is not in her life. (never has been) My husband, her stepfather is a good man, he has his flaws, and I have let her get away with many sly comments and at the expense of his feelings many times. I am not proud of this, I want to change, it gets really hard because she is at ';that'; age and many times I can see her side of things, which I know in the long run my husband is right and has her best interest in hand. Just how sucky of a mom am I being when I don't stand up (at the moment things are happening) Ok, I don't need a barage of finger pointing, just some ideas how to not get caught up in the middle of their fights, and stay objective, and head strong. It gets hard, its my husband and my daughter, I love both and they are driving me crazy with the fighting over everything.Need advice on my 15 yr. old daughter and husband.?
Just talk to her about it. I'm so glad you realize this. My mom and 15 yr. old sister have been fighting forever, and my mom thinks it's all my sister's attitude. Just tell her you don't think you've been doing the best job at being her mom and that things are going to change. Then tell her the new rules about how things will be in your house from now on. I hope this was helpful!Need advice on my 15 yr. old daughter and husband.?
You need to stop putting yourself in the middle. But at this point you need to tell both of them that there will be changes. I would sit down with each one seperately and state why you don't like what is going on.





Explain to your daughter that you don't appreciate the way she treats your husband, and from now on you will not allow it. If she has an issue with his decisions, she needs to confront him in a respectful manner, and attempt to discuss it in a mature way. Dont let her put you in the middle.





The same goes for your husband, explain to him that you are backing away next time they argue, leave the room if you have to. But remind him that he is not always right, he is entitled to his opinion, and he has the right to tell her, but he also has to respect her enough to listen.





It is going to be tough in the beginning, and the fighting might seem like its getting worse. But if you are not in the middle they will have to listen to each other.
You need to lay down the law. First set down and talk to your husband. Both of you are her boss. I dont care how old she is, if she is in your house she needs to listen and be respectful. Then both of you need to set down and talk to her, tell her what it is that she needs to change. Dont tell her you would like it if she changes tell her she has no choice. Just because her real dad is not in her life doesnt mean that she has to treat anyone bad. Then the next time she does it punish her. You have to be the tough one.


good Luck
your husband may not be her biological father but he is in all sense f the word her dad hes the one who is there everyday and works pays the bills buys her clothets etc...(im sure you help but you know what i mean)...so she treat him him with every respect she treats you also remember these direspectfull things happen at this age most times anyway ..you just need to lay down the law and let her know what he says goes and you need to back him up whether you agree with it or not and in privacy talk with him about anything you dont agree with but DO NOT do it in front of your daughter....GOOD LUCK
I think you'd do best to sit them both down at the table and say exactly what you just said. Sounds to me like they've switched roles a bit, daughter telling step-dad the who and what and dad acting like the child and ignoring it. Nothing good comes from ignoring anything, it only makes matters worse.


I'm not going to point the finger because you're all at fault as you're all old enough to know better and to know that you treat everyone with respect, even if it kills you at the moment. Sounds like step-dad needs to put her in her place and let her know who's the parent and who's not. He's an adult too and can't expect you to fight his battles. Just because he's not blood, doesn't make him any less of a parent.
Who's the boss in the house? You, spouse, kid, dog? Do you even know that? When you identify that person LET him/her rule.
You need to step up to the plate and raise your daughter to have respect for your husband. Number one your husband should not be discipling her. That is your job. I don't know what is going on in your house but it's up to you to be the one in this role. It's sounding like your sitting back and letting him make he rules when it comes to your daughter. The rules of your household need to be followed and it's your job to ensure this is happening not your husbands.





This man does deserve more respect then he is getting. It's not appropriate for your daughter to treat him this way. It's not appropriate for you to sit back and not parent. Would you let her talk to any other person the way she is to your husband? Privlages taken away.





Talk to your husband and her. State what the rules are for the house and what is expected of everyone. If it's not followed through talk about that. If there is someone that is bothering your husband about you daughter he needs to talk to you. You then are to deal with the issues that are happening...be it leaving the house a mess, not coming home when she should, treating people with respect. That is your role as a parent. As a step parent he really is just a friend to this kid....it's your job to raise her into a woman.
Wow!!!! Lets play who's the adult here, that's where u the adult


let ur kid run u. If u did ur job in the beginning u wouldn't be having these problems now. It's going to be hard trying to correct this type of behavior now for the simple fact that its been going on for so long. If u raise a child from birth to respect their elders u wouldn't encounter these problems at this age. U must present a united front with ur husband, that way she cant play one against the other. Stop letting her run the show and take ur role as the adult.... remember kids don't run adults, adults run the kid.
Would it be possible for them to do some ';bonding'; like is there something she really loves to do...or somehwere she would really like to go? He could take her...just the two of them...let her think it was his idea...just a thought?