You made a huge mistake by saying ';yes';. It is very similiar to being married and not wanting kids (but your spouse does). Under no circumstances should you ever allow your spouse to talk you into doing something you absolutely don't want to do (particularly given the responsibilities of being a pet owner).
At this point in time, the best thing you can do is tell your husband you made a huge mistake giving into his demands. Tell him honestly that you want the dog gone if there is anyway possible to find it a new home.
However, don't give it to the pound or have it put to sleep. You originally agreed to take on this responsibility and until you have found it a new home killing / abandoning it is morally / ethically wrong.
As other people have pointed out this dog is a product of its nature and the way it was raised. Its behavior can be modified if you have the patience to do so. It also is biting you because it is picking up your negative emotions toward it.I am sick and tired of my husband's dog I want it gone!!!! Any advice?
I would love to have a puppy and we both raise it together. Having his animals in the house even tho we are married..dn't feel like 'they are part of me'
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Tell him its me or the dog, your choice, We discussed dogs, and you know how I feel about this, I am not playing second fiddle to the dog, so your decision buddy.
Sounds like you're jealous of the dog.
And your question is what then??
so does he have a dog or just want one?
Dogs know when people don't like them -- which is why the dog is leery of you.
You know, it sounds a little strange, but you actually sound jealous of the dog. Can that be possible? A lot of your comments have to do with your impatience towards your husband and his affection for the dog, and how you ';never have your husband to yourself';. Do you REALLY think that your husband is sharing affection between you and the dog?
It sounds like some sort of compromise is in order, here. You agreed to the dog, but now you feel like the dog is somehow infringing on your life by just being in the same house with you. You and your husband need to sit down and come up with an acceptable compromise -- perhaps the dog isn't allowed in the house except for an hour or two each day, etc., or is crated when your husband is away, etc.
Good luck -- but whatever you do, don't use the ultimatum, ';Me or the dog!'; You might be surprised which one he'd pick . . .
The reason why the dog has bitten you twice, is because it can sense your negative energy! Dont blame the dog, if you wanna know how to get on with this dog, then watch ';The Dog Whisperer';
Put the dog outside, pay a neighbor to take the dog for a walk, so you can have time with hubby! If you have a fenced in yard then put him outside and have time with hubby! Lock the dog in another room, put the dog in another room..
Well, you need to deal with the dog, it's part of your family now!
animals can feel love.
animals can also feel hate and rejection.
can you imagine how it would be, if your hubby got jealous at your child, IF you had one together?
if you can't love an animal, you can't love, period.
Life can be a wonderful thing. Yet so many just want to look for problems. If you love your husband and he wants a dog in the house, what鈥檚 the harm? Do you have children that would be sick with an animal in the home? If not give it a try. You might find out it is not as bad as you think. If it doesn鈥檛 work out then you may speak up and let him know the problems. But life will not be kind to you if you try to make problems that are not there.
And what is the question? Maybe try accepting the dog and it won't be so bad. What if your husband to you to get rid of the cats? Would you? Probably not. Unless the dog is mean, bites or destroys stuff, get over it or move out.
the dog knows that you don't like it and sees you as a threat, so of course it's going to be hostile to you.
sounds like the dog and you need to go to obedience training. The dog will learn to listen to you and see you as an alpha and you'll learn how to handle the dog so that it is not hostile towards you. If that doesn't clear things up then a hostile and jealous dog should not stay in the house and should definitely be gone if you have young children.
BTW: if you are the only one the dog is hostile with, then you are the problem. Me: I've dumped people from my life that my dogs don't like. I find them to be very accurate judges of character.
Is the dog following you around everywhere like he did w/ his previous owner? The dog is just doing what he knows. The lady probably Did spoil the dog. The dog is probably the only company she had. Try to cope the best you can. You've got your cats, and now, he has his dog. Good Luck!!
You are jealous of a dog!??!
You MUST be mean to the dog for it to bite you! It is obvious that you do not like this dog because the dog takes some of your alone time with your husband. Sigh.
You have much bigger problems than just a dog. The dog is being used as an excuse for your neediness. Get some help.
You may have made a mistake saying yes, but you did, so now you have to live with the consequences! Also, cats and dogs should not be outdoors all the time. They need comfort, socialization and love like all living souls. You are stuck! Get used to it. If you tell your husband ';it's me or the dog'; I sure hope he chooses the dog.
The dog probably hates you because she knows you hate her. Animals are very sensitive to people and their moods and feelings.
I am a dog lover. What exactly is your problem with the dog? You said you didn't mind the idea at first, What changed your mind? Maybe it's just a matter of retraining it. Contrary to the saying, You can teach an old dog new tricks. I would suggest having a professsional dog trainer look at your situation. For most, a pet is considered a member of the family, it would be like giving away a child. Personally, if I had to chose between a spouse and a dog, I would pick the dog everytime. Because Dogs are not capable of lying, or cheating, the way humans are.
A person can go overboard with pets there's no doubt about that, but you knew how he felt before you got married! I have a dog and he is my best friend so I know how he feels. Don't get me wrong, I'm not taking sides but if you love him enough let him have a dog, just don't let it get out of hand! RandyCasino!!
The dog senses that you hate her. So she hates you too. She also finds you a threat to her and her master so she is going to the one thing that comes natural to her and that is to bite when she feels threaten. Either she has to go or you will. This dog has no plans to every be nice to you because she will never totally trust you. When any animal sense they aren't liked by someone they will do what they have to in order to protect themselves and their owner/s. You also seem to be jealous cause the dog is always around. I mean it's a dog. It's not like she's a person that comes over day after day and stays until the next day. It's a dog. That lives there. So you have a couple of choices here. Either find a way to like the dog and learn to live with the dog always being around or you can move. Or you can speak to your husband and explain how you truly feel about the dog and that you regret telling him ok to getting it but he pressured you into it. Now you resent the dog totally and his going to have to make a choice you or the dog. Or last but not least..... If you can get the dog in a cage or your car you can always take her to the pound or dump her on a side road. If you can live with yourself afterwords.
Yes, you are jealous of the dog.
If you were allergic to the dog, then I could see why you would not want it in the home. If you had a traumatic experience with a dog when you were younger, I could understand why you wouldn't want a dog. Just growing up without one doesn't sound like a good enough reason to not have one now.
You want time alone with your husband, and honey I have to tell you: that dog isn't taking your time away from one another. A baby will. If you are jealous of the dog being around, you better think long and hard about having a child (if you intend to). And why wait until you are settled in? I have been married forever and still am not settled in. I have always wanted a big furry dog, but my husband keeps getting these little dogs. I still love them, though. Take time out from being angry and pay close attention to this animal. He's more joy than you apparently realize~
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