Husband coming back from deployment in 3 mnths transition advice?

Any Ideas on how to help make his transition easier on him?.


We have two kids, one is only 18 mnths so does not really know daddy the other is 4.


Any previously deployed males, what helped you transition?Husband coming back from deployment in 3 mnths transition advice?
What kind of deployment?Where was he sent? And what branch of service?What is his MOS?





All these questions i asked effect what kind of advise i give you for your question. I need more information.





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Give him his space, don't overwhelm him. He is going to want to be alone and hang mostly out with his buddies who were there with him. Let him. But also let him know that you are there for him. It is best to keep the kids from overwhelming him as well.





Things to look out for are suicidal thoughts, Substance abuse/ too much drinking.





It might sound harsh but I have alot of experience from returning Vets from Vietnam growing up and Iraq.Husband coming back from deployment in 3 mnths transition advice?
The miltary offers transition classes for families. I suggest you try to attend the class. How long was he gone? 12-15 months?





Try not too push too many things on him, like- ';oh, you are the man of the house..you need to do this and this....';.





Ease his transition back to the ';world';. Let the kids get to know their daddy at their pace...don't push them. They will come around...just give it time.





Basically, show him that you love him and how much you love him by just being there for him. Tell him that you love him and you support him and that you are proud of him.
I agree with taking the class in transitions if you can get to one. I know our FRG made sure we had at least the mini version of it at one of our meetings before the boat DH was on came home. It really can help.





The biggest thing to do is to talk to him as much as you can about the plans. His ideas of the perfect homecoming may be totally different than yours. I know some guys who preferred to have just their wife meet them while others preferred to have the wife and kids. If anyone else is planning to come (cousins, siblings, parents...) make sure he knows and wants them there before they make plans.





The second biggest thing is be flexible. Sometimes things change at the last minute so be ready to change your homecoming plans quickly.





Make sure he knows the kids will have changed. I know you'd think that would be obvious when he's been gone for so long. But some guys are really hurt when their kids act odd around them when they get back. If he expects a bit of that up front then it tends to be easier.