when someone tells u they no longer love u, u have to accept it and let them go. u need to believe what he is telling u because if u don't its just going to make u emotionally sick.Advice on what to do about my husband skipping out on me and telling me he does not love me anymore?
sounds like the marriage is all ready over on his end.
Take him up on his offer. You didn't marry a man...you married a child. I'm a christian as are many people here and marriage is meant for 2 people who love, respect, honor and cherish each other. He hasn't lost his way...it simply sounds like he never knew where it was. You've said many bad things about him but few good. Let the anger and resentment build and within hours you'll most likely agree...you never really married a man. Unfortunately you married an immature, overly dramatic child with issues and a penchant for discourse. Put the trash on the curb.
If I was u don't play into the game. Yeah u r hurt, shocked,mad, sad all of the above but take a friendly hint Trust and believe in the higher power it will get better but til u let go he will constantly be a thorn in your side.
I feel for you. It must be very confusing and heartbreaking when someone you are with can switch from being nice one minute and then totally opposite the next.
I was with someone like that for 6 years when I was really young. She was great one minute and the next minute she would be accusing me of certain things and would be really mean and even hit me. Then the next day she would be sorry and act like nothing happened. Because I loved her I kept giving her a chance but after 6 years of this I had enough, grabbed our small children, left her and have never looked back.
Later on I was to discover she had Borderline Personality Disorder which explained everything. I'm not a doctor or anything but Google that and have a read on it. Could he even have Bi-Polar or some other form of mental illness?
Are you able to encourage him to go to a doctor and get a referal to a Psychiatrist or Psychologist? If your husband isn't willing then maybe you need to talk to someone professional to talk through what is happening in order to get through this and for your own sanity. Just remember what is happening is not your fault but if he is not willing to seek help then you need someone to talk to help you get through this.
Hope this helps and best of luck.
Take a good look at what you said!
';After we talked for a while, he told me all kinds of stuff about how he will never have children with me, he thinks I am bi-polar, i am fat, and that he wants to party, drink, and do drugs and he knows that he can't do this while he is with me,.';
He emotionally abuses and insults you and then you go to bed and you both act like nothing is wrong! He then tells you he doesn't love you anymore and wants a divorce. There is nothing more that you can do. His actions have shown that he does respect you or the marriage.
As a Christan, take heart in knowing that it is not you who has broken up your marriage. You will one day find true love and comfort with a worthy man who believes in the sanctity of marriage vows.
As for his mother, she definitely has her own psychological scars and perhaps has contributed to her sons. As much as you are hurting now, trust in your God for strength and he will help you to move on and make a better life for yourself.
Get ready for the divorce...and good riddance, you're much better off without someone like that.
Loving a man who is torturing your mentally is going to destroy you in the long run! Many women fall in love with the man they hope to live out theri lives with only to have it end in divorce because men don't see love and marriage the way women do. You call upon your faith as your belief as to why you don't want to have a divorce, but many women who are christians have therei marriages end because their husbands wanted it to end. It has nothing to do with how you believe, it is how he sees himself being married to you and that is what hed doesn't want anymore. Is it fair to yourself to live in a marriage where you can be treated in such a manner as to be disrespected when it comes to him acknowledging to you about is life and what is going on with it? Everything that you have described about his behavior has to do with him thinking about somebody else, some of the things he does are out of guilt, and to tell you that he does not love you anymore is a definite sign that it is over. Wake up and smeel the fresh air of relief that you won't have to live a life like that any longer. There has to be a man who would want to be married to you, to have children, a family, and everything else that are a part of your dreams. You still have plenty of time to find a man that will appreciate your love and for him to give you the love that you long for.
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