He has no children but wants one by her very badly. She does not want any more, but he does. He does not want children by anyone else but her. I do not know what to tell her except to try to give him one. But, she tells him to find another women to have kids with and be happy with her.
He got his feelings hurt in a very bad way and told her he will not leave and will just hope she will change her mind. This guy does everything for her and then some! He is no wimp either..Extremely attractive, faithful, and self employed.
Lots of women are attracted to him. Especially, when we are all out, the stares that he gets. He just laughs and puts his arm around my friend and say I can love only you! Dam! any women would die for a man like this one...Is she being selfish or not?
Thank you for your answers!!Need advice for my best friend and her husband?
Advise your friend to stand by her beliefs until such point as they change. The fact of the matter is that if they are married he had to know her tubes were tied as well as her not wanting any more children. If he really loves her he will leave her be and let her think about it, for the more he pushes the more likely he will be pushing her away. The same goes for your friend though too, she must have known he wanted kids before she married him. I think that they need to get to the real issue, why doesn't she want anymore children and why does he want them so much?Need advice for my best friend and her husband?
How can she be married for five years to this man and have two children one aged 4 by her husband?
To be honest there is knothing you can do for your friend it is her problem.
I was steralised did not want anymore children then divorced met someone else who did not have children but I made it very clear before any commitment that I did not want anymore children and he understood and respected that fact.
It is not good to tell your husband to go and have a child with another woman your friend sounds a bit insecure to me.
I am not suprised he was hurt by this it is a form of rejection emotional for him from her.
I do not think your friend is being selfish in not wanting anymore children but she is in telling him to go and have one with someone else and be happy with her or did she mean go and have one with someone else OR just be happy with her as there is a big difference.
This is their choice and there is nothing you can say or do to make it better for any of them.
She must have told him she did not want children before they married and if she told porkies then that is so unfair to chance her mind now.
He sounds a nice person and happy with your friend so maybe he should understand has she told him why she does not want anymore if she just says no then that is not really giving him an explanation it is giving him mixed message so only advise I can offer is she needs to tell him why and then he will understand and be more settled.
this is best left for them to sort out....seriously...if you get involved and she takes your advice then it would cause trouble for her and her hubby...i can tell you now...you won't be thanked for it in the long term...just support her and be there for her...
your Friend should follow her heart and you should stand beside her all the way, if he is such a great guy he will understand her decision rather then force his own on her through guilt. plus once people have children they can change do you really know this man well enough to doubt your friends decision????
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